Why haven’t sex addicts (and their partners) been told these facts?

Recovering from Sex addiction is a two way street

Recovering from Sex addiction is a two way street

It’s easy to put the blame where it doesn’t belong. Often, when a couple enters a therapy session, its often the case that one of the parties feels victimized, and helpless to solve the situation. Even the addicted one may feel that it is solely their responsibility to fix the relationship.

For a relationship to effectively recover from a sex addiction, everyone in the relationship must work to see the change they desire.

  1. People with Bipolar Disorder are far more likely to pursue high-risk sexual activities during a manic episode.
  2. People with Asperger’s Syndrome are prone to promiscuous sexual behaviour.
  3. There are two initiators of sexually active behaviour. Sometimes, sexual addiction starts as a result of substance abuse; their body is looking for another high. Other times, addiction begins when the subject is trying to quit another substance. In other words, sexual addiction becomes a substitute to quench their addictive mindset.
  4. Childhood victims of sexual abuse tend to repeat the pattern subconsciously, to narcissistically gain victory over their past experiences. This is usually a result of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder.
  5. Sex addiction is often confused with an antisocial personality. Pedophilia, exhibitionism, and severe fetishes are important addiction cases that must be treated quickly and efficiently because of their tendency to victimize others.
  6. Sexual addiction can often be the result of a person confused about their sexual orientation. In these cases, they are likely trying to offset self-discontentment or gain acceptance from others.

For sex addicts, the main focus of therapy is to help them identify effective ways to stop the unhealthy behaviour patterns. Shame associated with sexual addiction can be a dangerous trigger for the disease. Twelve-step programs like ‘sex addicts anonymous’ and group therapy are the most effective ways to reduce shame and heal from sex addiction.

It can also be helpful to understanding the psychology behind sexual behaviour, something I call “cracking the erotic code.” Everyone has a sexual narrative. Uncovering the non-sexual meanings of our fantasies and behaviours can help us identify our needs — allowing sex addicts to find alternative sources of satisfaction and allowing their partners to feel compassion, empathy and understanding instead of frustration, sadness and anger.

Source: http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/04/25/8-quick-facts-on-sex-addiction/

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