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Hiding an addiction – 3 questions to ask yourself

Maggie Harmon July 25, 2014

Some people are good at hiding their addiction from the world, and from themselves, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t real… and it doesn’t mean that there is no impact from the addicted behavior. Denying an addiction problem is an expected self-defense mechanism for people with substance abuse problems and their families. So, how can you address addiction which is affecting an entire family group?

Here, we bring light to the subject of hiding addictions. While families and individuals remain functional on the outside, hidden addictions can eat you up from the inside. More here on addiction, dysfunction, and families, with a section for your comments or questions at the end. Read More …

The set up – Living with addiction

Tian Dayton MA, PhD, TEP 

What Happens to the Family When Addiction Becomes Part of It?

Families where addiction is present are oftentimes painful to live in, which is why those who live with addiction may become traumatized to varying degrees by the experience. Broad swings, from one end of the emotional, psychological and behavioral spectrum to the other, all too often characterize the addicted family system. Living with addiction can put family members under unusual stress. Normal routines are constantly being interrupted by unexpected or even frightening kinds of experiences that are part of living with drug use. What is being said often doesn’t match up with what family members sense, feel beneath the surface or see right in front of their eyes. The drug user as well as family members may bend, manipulate and deny reality in their attempt to maintain a family order that they experience as gradually slipping away. The entire system becomes absorbed by a problem that is slowly spinning out of control. Little things become big and big things get minimized as pain is denied and slips out sideways. Read More …