How to Get Past the Pain of a Prodigal Child and Restore the Relationship You Used to Have
The discovery that your child is doing drugs or drinking can be frightening – especially if its an unfamiliar scene to you.
Now that you know something needs to be done and have freely admitted it, take time to breathe. Sit down. Relax. You may be feeling ashamed embarrassed, or guilty. Try to squelch these thoughts. Understand that there are many defining factors that lead to an addiction. Though you may be a contributing factor, you are definitely not the only one. Don’t blame yourself – you are the key to the solution.
It may be the last thing in the world you want to do, but communication is the most important step you can take to motivate your child down the path to recovery. Sufficient preparation for the conversation will go a long to helping you stay calm, relaxed, and effective.
Setting clear boundaries and limits for your child provide them with the understanding of your expectations and a tangible process to learn self-control. Be very clear about your expectations for them. How much alcohol or drugs, if any, are the allowed to consume? How often? Its much easier for them to say “No” to others if they know, beyond a doubt, the expectations that are defined up for them. Don’t be afraid to tear down or move fences as they progress or digress in their recovery.
Ask For Help
Help comes in many forms. It could be a family doctor, sports team coach, school counselor, religious guidance, or rehab. Each one can be a great resource and have excellent tactics and access to create an environment for your child to succeed. The more addiction-free, recovery-friendly environments you can set up for your child, the more likely you and your child will be successful.
You’re Not Alone
Your child doesn’t have to do this alone, and neither should you. Join a support group, online forum, or Facebook group that includes others in the same situation. They’ll have practical tips and a listening ear.
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